The "Single" Life: Yurugu Insanity or Afrikan Reality?

[Kentake]

"The couple is the bedrock of the nation. Without it there is no family, no people. Without couples there can be no family to procreate and rear confident, untroubled, anchored children. No viable, community-respecting generation can be born to continue the process of life, living, building and defending. Afrikan couples must be whole, individually and as one. They must be able to trust their selves and each other implicitly. And that is what makes it imperative that we carefully choose our mates for Afrikan reasons. We must choose with vision. For we are the vanguard. Our unions have purpose far greater than the wants or needs of either member individually or the couple together. We do not bemoan this privilege. In fact, it is just the opposite. We are soldiers in love with forming beautiful families, rearing happy, thinking children, building strong, lasting communities, raising a mighty nation and removing all enemies. For Afrikan warrior scholar complements, there is no other reason for being."

Excerpt from Complimentarity by Baba Mwalimu Baruti


Htpu Afrikans,
I attended Baba Mwalimu Baruti's free lecture on his book, Complimentarity, not too long ago right here Abibitumi Kasa.com. even though i have not yet read the book, i know that the messages that are stored within it are a great part of the essential Re-Afrikanization-education that we so desperately need to begin our process of transformation and Re-Birth as Afrikan people. and with that said, i must ask myself and all of us here as Pan-Afrikan/revolutionary students, comrades and teachers is it in alignment with our ancestral way for us Not to be in harmonious Afrikan relationships? is the "single life=i don't need a man/woman-attitude" and the "swinger life" part of our own making? or is this another part of the yurugu insanity machine that has us continually spiralling out of control? being driven towards our own annihilation? how can Abibifahodie (Afrikan Liberation) manifest itself in Real-Livity if the foundation of the Afrikan family is in shambles or worse if NO foundation exists at all for so many of US? is there a way for us to address our dysfunctional nature in dealing with relationships in the Afrikan world commune-ity? or do we wish to rid ourselves of the responsibility of healing ancestral wounds? if so, then clearly we do not have a proper overs-standing of our divine culture and moral foundation.........it is thru US that our nananom will be RE-Born, this we Must Know and if there is No US then there is No Vessel through which the nananom can communicate or come back to Life. therefore, am i correct to say that we sometimes subconsciously put a block between ourselves and our nananom? am i correct to say that we sometimes deny their existence? as Baba Mwalimu Baruti stated "without couples, there can be no family......" so....what does that mean when you see that there are so many Pan-Afrikanists who are single, unmarried, with no children, OR raising their children Alone, with no extended family, with no like-minded comrades within their circle. what does that mean when you see that our Elders who are supposed to be cared for and nurtured by Our families, are withering away in senior homes or being force-fed yurugu die-as-fast-as-you-can-death-medicine in north america's over-populated hospitals? what does that mean when you see that we have so many of our unborn children being aborted? or when we have so many of our children being placed in foster homes not only all over this hemisphere but all over the World?


What does it mean to me? it means we have Failed, miserably. even though we know who is Responsible for this Genocide we also have ourselves to Blame. aane, dat's right. we can Change this Hot-Mess into Happiness but Only if we Choose. can we make the right choice? our social conditions under yurugu domination are brutal (truly, that's an understatement), but, it is true that we have the power to change our own lives and when we do not claim that divine power then we are also at fault. there seem to be too many of us who speak about Abibifahodie as if it is a solitary incident that will take place in a "moment in time". the way i see it is our evolution as Afrikan people starts with US transforming ourselves "individually" and coming together in the process of our collective healing. we cannot have functional sacred Afrikan relationships when we are all playing hide-and-go-seek games with the yurugu demons that live within all of us. there is a "house party" going on within many of us between the yurugu cave-beast and the Afrikan divine man/woman. this is what makes us believe that the Afrikan man and woman are separate entities that can function without each other, that do not need each other, and that are in constant battle with each other. this is because this is the insane mentality of yurugu. in Afrikan cosmology, such a thing does not exist, it is Foreign and Strange. many may deny this but we have been within their grip for sooo long that it cannot be denied....their venom has been a part of us for sometime and now it is the time that we get the medicine to cure our wounds. which side will we give power to? and have we identified which parts of ourselves we will allow to manifest? there is no denying that the enemy that we all love to hate also resides within us as well. this is why we have such great difficulty in sustaining True Afrikan unions or even creating them at all. this is why we run like Ben Johnson on steroids when the possibility of being aligned with a True Afrikan becomes a possibility.


We are a people who have been infested with the demonic vibrations of yurugu and we seem to be enjoying the ride. we cannot seem to see that this "joy-ride" is leading us straight to an early grave right next to Abraham Lincoln. i have been on this roller coaster for sometime and i am not enjoying it, are you? for the survival of US as a people and for the continued Re-Surrect-tion of Our Sheps, we Must Decide to BE Whole and Complete Afrikans in harmony with our Maatic Way, we must do everything in Our Power to Battle the Enemy from within (and without) and to slay the Beast that rises within us that tells us we need to build Bridges to block ourselves from each other. if we Block the Path that leads us to Love, Unity and Re-Birth then what message are we sending our nananom about who we are? what message are we sending those that are in the ancestral realm waiting to Re-turn? will we even be able to nurture them and love them should they Re-turn? then we turn around and expect Our nananom to help us when we are consciously working against ourselves. if we are not living in alignment with Re-Afrikanization then the next route is self-extermination, is THIS what we have chosen? for the sake of those yet to be born, i truly hope not. the Afrikan family cannot be seen as a separate entity that is disconnected from our Re-Afrikanization process, it IS the very foundation upon which Abibifahodie will begin to manifest itself. this is what our nananom always knew, and they NEVER had to be taught this lesson. it was such an intrinsic part of their lives that this truth manifested in everything that they were to each other and every way that they interacted with each other.


Divorce was seen as an abomination, not only against the couple but against the whole community. abortion was never a regular "doctors' appointment" for us. the Afrikan womans' womb was a Sacred Vessel of Life and it Still is, Regardless of what we are led to believe or whatever stickin' yurugu fesces we allow ourselves to digest. the "single life" was not something to be bragged about or encouraged. the "swinger" life was an unknown phenomenon. homosexuality DID NOT exist. child molestation was unheard of, single parenthood was not even a word we knew. marriage was a sacred celebration of family, the whole commune-ity honored the couple that was coming together as One because they symbolized the continuity of the nation. i witnessed this in Benin City, Nigeria, a few years ago, when my friend Felix was getting married to Rita, i saw the whole commune-ity in Edo State gather on that day at Rita's fathers' home to witness the coming together of two families for the continuity and evolution of the Edo people. there was celebration, joy, laughter, jubilation, singing, rejoicing and love as i had Never seen before. i witnessed sistahs and brothers, children and Elders gather in one large space to honor and salute this Edo couple for their courage to be devoted to each other. i later realized that many of these people did not know the family but rather came in their love for nationhood. they knew intrinsically that this marriage they were coming to witness was also about their own cultural and spiritual continuity.


Over here in the west we are very loud about our devotion to Afrikan Liberation, but, this is clearly a part of Our Re-Surrection process that we have not grasped as of yet. if we do not have a complete and thorough overs-standing of the role the Afrikan couple/family plays in our evolution and Total Liberation as a people, then we are still in a stage of regression and depression as a people. we have to wake up to the reality that we need each other to function as Afrikan people and that True Afrikan Love & Sacred Unity is Totally necessary for our Healing and Transformation, even for our Very Survival. the illness of me-myself-and-i-individualism-syndrome that is so "normal" in this society that we all live in was Once unknown to US. we should remember that when we merged with yurugu BY FORCE we had to abandon many of our sacred rites and customs. what we should be asking ourselves is "What have we lost?", "How can we get it back?" & "Why don't we remember?" Aane Obibini, i mean ALL OF IT, anything less is not good enough.


The insane realities of the "booty-call-bachelor brother" who fears marriage and commitment as if it is a deadly dis-ease, and who only cares about satisfying himself physically and the "independent i-got-it-goin-on-sistah" who cares more about her career with corporate America than with her self are parts of our world right now that we have just learned to accept. both persons do not have the slightest clue about their nation-building responsibilities and the necessity of family restoration through having functional relationships. all this psychotic yurugu energy that we give Power to Must be exorcised out of our minds, bodies and spirits so that we can get onto the bizniz of Real Healing. because Healing is a very REAL part of our Re-Afrikanization process that i do not hear being discussed or dealt with. is this due to the fact that we believe we are so pure and free of illness that we do not need to address it? we must move forward into the Re-Vive-ALL of Our ancestral values, because it was always known and over-stood that "the fall of a Nation begins in individual homes". but ain't dat the truth? back in the day, i mean "let's go WAAAAAYYYYY BACK" couples were brought together for the sake of nation-hood itself, sometimes there were many Elders & Sages involved in this process. i am sure divination/ consultation with the Nananom/ )bosom/Orisa was a crucial part of this process (Remember we goin' WAAAAAYYYY Back Now.....) individuals were hardly left to themself (to make such a grave decision which also would effect many generations to come) to just randomly "pick" a husband or wife based on emotion or lust. ofcourse, Afrikans had a choice in who they would marry, but the choice had to be approved by the Elders. it could never be otherwise, because the foundation had to be set for Afrikan people to continue their Majestic Purpose of being the Custodians of this Earth and the Teachers of Hue-Man-ity. if i am not mistaken, the mate selection process was a long journey with much disciplinary measures involved in it. when the final decision was made that this couple would indeed marry, the commune-ity came out to support and encourage these two families that were now becoming One AND this Nation that was growing into an Empire.


Where is Our Empire? (even if miniscule in size?) where are Our Elders to approve our selections in mates OR to advise Us? how do we make our choices for mates? and why do we make the choices we do? what is driving us to be in relationships? or what us driving us to run from the possibility of having True Afrikan relationships? those very same Nananom that made these mate-selection decisions back in the day would be shocked to see US now, especially those of US who claim them to be living in accordance with their Wisdom. look at our communities and tell me how many of us are getting married or how many of us have been in lasting, healthy relationships for more than 5 years, how many of us consciously seek mates that are prepared to live in accordance with the principles of Abibifahodie? if they are not, What are we doing with them? how many of US consciously Seek mates that we Know will be prepared to Live Maat and to help each other to Slay the Yurugu demon within should it even Dare to rise? why would we even make a choice otherwise? how many of us over-stand that without couples there are NO families and without families there is NO Nation? if we do, then, why is it we see a solitary movement of Afrikans "out in the world on their own" fighting this Enemy without the Ultimate weapon of Functional Unity? if we wish to live in honor of our nananom and to continue their purpose for Be-ing Afrikan, we should make an extra effort to function as they did, to live in harmony with the wisdom that WE are Them and therefore Our Existence is tied to our inter-dependence to each other. when there is no other, there is no US, there is only me, and me-myself-and-i is not OUR way. let's make it clear.


Our Evolution as a people is tied to whether we can find the courage, strength, Humility, patience, devotion, commitment, Fearlessness, steadfastness and joy to Love each other unconditionally, to help ourselves Re-Build collectively and not be afraid to sacrifice parts of ourselves in order to harmonize with the greater purpose of nation-building. our nation-building process was always pioneered first by the coming together of couples (with the permission and guidance of Elders and Sages), and then when the foundation of family was set after the birth of children, we then began to start the unification of these families for the purpose of Nation-hood. i am sure this is the process in which Our greatest civilizations were built and sustained for several generations. i am also sure that our nananom need us to Re-Store this work so that they will be able to manifest their Power within us and our families and so that they can have a channel to Re-turn, Re-Birth & Re-Surrect the Order of Maat.


I am also sure that we are aware of this knowledge but due to our sub-conscious "house party" with the yurugu insanity lodged within our minds we do not yet have the capability to manifest this wisdom and to live it. there will come a time (and i Really think it will be Soon.....) that we will have to choose. when we do it will be Our the Final decision, at this point of our Global Genocide there can be no more playing games. we will be able to separate those who are ready to make the Sankofa Journey all the way back to Nefer Atum and those who are only on this journey for an exciting joy ride through the Afrikan ancestral savannah. until then.....we should all remember we STILL stand on the shoulders of those who came before us and therefore we have a truly Afrikanificent Responsibility to bring back the REAL DEAL Black in every way, shape and form. our nananom never denied their responsibilities to US, the yet unborn, even when they knew it would cost them their lives or their limbs. as far as i can see, it starts with US being US, KNOWING WE ARE US and NOT "ME", functioning as US AND thinking about the US that is not even here yet. aight y'all, nuff said for now. Meda ase paa! for allowing me to share. Mema wo Abibifahodie!


Yeye Kentake.

[liongod]

i agree whole heartedly with you sister kentake but we cant blame ourselves for yorugu domination. of all cultures, afrikans have been oppressed the worst and the longest, it is no wonder our males are either 'gay' or afraid of marriage, and the ones that do marry seem to be the most brainwashed and many times marry a yorugu. it quite unfair and awkward to be a new born afrikan in this country as most of us descendents of slaves cant even name three afrikan countries.
you ask where are our empires we have had many in the US, africa and mostly in the ancient world but everytime we have one or any leader or any organization that is not either a foundation supporting a cliched 'inner city youth basketball league' or a non-profit started by someone as a tax writeoff it is targeted and destroyed. basically if it is anything that has to do with afrikans re-discovering thier roots or defending thier communities in anyway it is a threat to the country, Remeber COINTELPRO is still alive and thriving.
i agree, but the african family and community system is under threat and has been from day one. our males are absent in 3 of every 4 households because the male was sepereated from the female right after he got off the slave ship and paired up for breeding by the slave owner, since day one. if a male slave got out of hand he was whipped, dragged, or hung to death, since day one and still today. i was fool enough to go to an HBCU thinking i would find my queen and found, mostly (90%), the same type of sista you discribed. stuck on corporate america and how much money she could make and even how she could control what ever male she wanted with that money. It infuriates me to see a sistah or brother whose grandmothers grandmother was a slave and less than a century later they are fighting to move into a white neighbor hood (the suberbs) and raise some brainwashed kids there the american (dream) nightmare.

i would like to see more afrikan minded afrikans come together here and abibitumikasa.cm to grow into the type of site where we can come together and celebrate re-arfikanization and nationhood in places other than a flashchat room, but in my opinion we are too far spread apart. so the only other solution is to rebirth, regrow know your enemies from your friends and buckledown becuase the end is coming. Functioning as us and not we, as sister kentake, is the only SOULution at this time. whether im alone or not im not going down without a fight UHURU SASA. ABIBIFAHODIE!

[Kentake]

Meda ase paa liongod. i appreciate you taking the time to share. brother, i Never said WE are to Blame for yurugu domination, i fully recognize that we are under constant brutal attack & assault. but we have a responsibility to our nananom and ourselves Now regardless of the conditions we live under to remove the yurugu chip from our brains. i don't care what is goin on, we have to LIVE the Reality of Re-Afrikanization & nation-building. so, i agree with you that yurugu domination is a very serious reality in our lives, but that does not mean we have to lie down like doormats and let it stomp the life-force out of US. IF we are warriors, then we have to stand upright on the shoulders of Our nananom and do all we can to live in alignment with their Truth (as much as is possible under these insane conditions), no matter what the circumstances are. we cannot just accept the fact that yurugu is ruling over US and therefore we have no chance so we should just lay down and die. would that not be voluntary suicide? we Really have to look at what we are saying to each other and ask ourselves have we been overcome with the spirit of Docility & Defeat? these are not emotions we can embrace at this time. we are at a stage where our very existence is hanging on a string. this is really a bad time to be "giving in" to yurugu insanity. so my brother liongod, i overs-stand what you are saying and i have stated the same thing in the above essay. But i also Know that WE have a major part to play in our Total Liberation, no matter the circumstances. yurugu domination is a spirit of genocide that we have to do War with, internally and externally. remember, our nananom endured many horrific things of which we cannot even imagine and they never refused their responsibilities. so we cannot sit around feeling sorry for ourselves and believing that we are destined to fail in this War no matter what we do, because ultimately, that would signify that the work of Our nananom (even when they were living under much worse conditions...) has been for NOTHING. is that the message we want to send our children? i hope not.


Yeye Kentake.

[liongod]

very well put sis. kentake it seems i misunderstood your post. although i tend to be consumed with hate toward an unmerciful system of yorugu domination, and am passionate about teaching everyone all i know about the history of black genocide and the present genocide going on, be they man women or child; i must think critcally as careful thinking is necessary in times like these. 'a man must be defeated mentally before he can be defeated physically' and our history is enough to defeat one in this way, you are correct in that we must FULLY Understand our ancestors (nananom) goals and re-evaluate how to reach those goals.
As rich as our Afrikan history is, it seems that in order to move forward we must look to the future instead of re-analyzing the failures of the past. so, although my afrikan history is the aspect i love most about my afrikan blood i must concentrate on looking to the future with the mindset of our nananom, and teach that philosphy to the next generation. i thank you for yet another inspirational article siter. hotep!

[Kentake]

and Asante sana to you for your heartfelt responses and honest analysis of our current s&%$-uation. i hope you will continue to come here to engage in the process of learning & studying the discipline of Re-Afrikanization at Abibitumi Kasa. O dabo.

Yeye Kentake.

[kweku, afro olmec]

hetepu afrikans, how can abibifahodie brothers and sisters meet and build families? i am a single brother ready for commitment, i've been single for five years now. how can we build bridges? i know sistahs as well who are in the same situation like sistah kentake and Mama Yaniba who are both abifahodie sisters. let's dialogue on how to address this issue!

[Kentake]

Hetepu Atef Kweku,
Meda ase for your contribution. i also real-eyes that we need to dialogue more on this issue in order to address this "Roadblock" to Nation-building. as we share ideas and perspectives on Re-Afrikanization here at Abibitumi-tastik Kasa i hope we are able to implement long-lasting soul-lutions that will guide us to re-storing Maat in every aspect of our lives, but first starting with our foundation=the Afrikan family.

WE must RE-member that "Life is war. Family is Army"

Yeye Kentake.