white ladies?-gctid47763

[Ɔbenfo Ọbádélé]

Many if not most Black people, at least in the u.s., refer to white females as "ladies" consistently, which is a term of respect ("there was this elderly white lady") while rarely to never referring to Black women as ladies. How is this psychologically damaging?

Discuss.

[Okomfo Akosua]

Good topic as it forces me to analyze my own use of words regarding Kmtyw women versus yurugu women.  This analysis forces me to be much more aware but I would say that thus far, I consistently refer to Kmtyw women using terms of respect and endearment.  I use the term Lady but also terms such as Queen, SiStar, Sista, Beloved, Mama, Nana (for elders and priestesses) and Beautiful are used regularly with Kmtyw women who I know and Ma'am and Madame (specifically when in Ghana) are used for women I don't know.  

I use these terms because I value and respect Kmtyw/Black women and therefore, respect and value myself.  It is love for self!  In cases where Kmtyw/Black women and men use terms of respect and endearment for yurugu women and terms of disrespect and degeneration for there own people hate themselves and have no pride in being Kmtyw/Black!!!

[Agbede]

Nsɛmfua no a yɛka wɔbɔ yɛn wiase. Wɔbɔ yɛn adwene ban, wɔtumi sɛe yɛn adwene. Nananom se obi nhyira ne tamfoɔ. Nti wofrɛ oburoni "lady" na wodi no ni a, saa buo bɛbɔ ne ho ban firi wo. ɛmu dɔ.

The words that we speak create our reality. They create the circumference of our thoughts, they can ruin our thinking. The Nananom say that a person does not bless her/his enemy. So if you respect a krakkker by calling it "lady", then that respect will protect them from you. It's deep.

[pyvsi]

Interesting.
I use "ladies" for all - except for when the female in question is acting rather unladylike. Then it's "woman", "female" or "heifer" depending on who's listening.
(Or if I'm really disgusted, "thing".)

[Agbede]

Obadele Kambon;47763 wrote: while rarely to never referring to Black women as ladies.

Is it less psychology damaging if our people refer to Kmtyw women as "ladies" just as much as krakkker females?

[Nefertiti-Feyikemi]

I like to refer to Kmtyw wombman as Sis,Sistar Queen,Mam,Mrs(elderly sistars)
white females I dont refer to! never ever out in the world do I refer to them in a "respectful" way as saying ms, mam, lady If I have to speak to them I just talk... state what its about and thats it :peace:

[Kimberly Robinson]

I also use the term sister or mother (for Elders) when referring to my Black/Kmtyw sisters. That term is denotes the highest respect. For white people in particular it is either krakkka, white bitch, white chic, white girl.  Hell, they call us all niggers behind our back when talking among themselves anyway.

[Nefertiti-Feyikemi]

For white people in particular it is either krakkka, white bitch, white  chic, white girl. Hell, they call us all niggers behind our back when  talking among themselves anyway.
I second that, And If it calls for it, Ill call them "That"(crackkka, Honky bitch,Dog etc etc)to their face I absolutely have No problem with it
I TRY to avoid contact with "whites" unfortunately they walk among us in the world lol

[Agya Kwaku]

Words have power and the ones you use are a reflection of how you see yourself and others that look like you. I always use positive uplifting language when addressing Kmtyw women/people. Yt holds nothing for me. Mepɛ Abibifoɔ,Mepɛ me Nananom Nsamanfoɔ,Mepɛ Abibfahodie nso.
 
I like Kmtyws, I like my Anscestors,I like Kmtyw Liberation also